Before you read any further, consider the following passage by Rainer Maria Rilke.
“Have patience with everything that remains unresolved in your heart. Try to love the questions themselves… Don’t search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer.”
As you let these words soak in, take a moment to reflect on how they apply to your life. How often do you procrastinate, putting things off until “later”? How often do you tell yourself to wait until “things settle down” before embarking on a new journey in life? How often do you view time as some sort of enemy, something that you lack or have to “beat”, rather than the abundant gift that it really is? How often do you postpone your life until the perfect time arrives for you to start living it?
If we are to be honest with ourselves, most of us must admit that we fall into these traps from time to time. We get caught up in the preparations of life. The moments of hesitation. The anticipation of something better that is just around the corner. We play mind-games with ourselves and allow ourselves to be fooled into thinking that we should wait for the answers of life to arrive, rather than living the questions themselves. We sit idly waiting for something to happen, and in doing so, we let the here-and-now pass us by.
Rather than waiting around for the “perfect time” to arrive, I encourage you to shift your perspective and instead embrace the present time. Arrive each day and practice dailines. Aim for reality. Put time to good use, rather than allowing yourself to be used by it and make the most of each day and each moment as it is at this time. Resist the temptation to resist or force life and instead have the courage to live with “what is”. Remember that life, and everything about it, is fluid. It is a dynamic, ongoing, and ever-evolving process, and because of this, nothing is ever really finished or complete. Nor will it ever be. And while this can be frustrating at times, it can also be comforting and encouraging to know that there really is time for everything and everything has its time. So, as Rainer Maria Rilke writes, do not search for the answers.
Instead, live everything, including the questions themselves.
Ellie Holbrook, MA, LPCC, RYT500