With the New Year approaching, many of us will find ourselves reflecting on the year gone by, and planning for the year ahead, and quite possibly, setting New Years Resolutions.  Which suggests that we have  life-work to do, and this work is undoubtedly some of the most difficult internal work we do as humans.

So, how do we get this work done?

First and foremost, it is important that we reignite the relationship that we have with our very own self.  This means re- tuning into the messages we receive from our bodies, our intuition, and the loved ones and endeavors that lift us higher.  As you do this, consider what it is that you transmit and receive in life.  What about this works for you, and what does not? In what ways do you dis/connect from yourself and others?

The following points are ways that many of us dampen and sever the connection we have with those most important to us, including our own selves.

Being everywhere but here:  In yoga, we often discuss the idea of “being present.”  But what does that even mean?  It means that we are able to channel our presence in order to be available to the moment that we are in.

Ignoring the body:  Many of us learn to disassociate from our physical bodies and instead learn pay more attention to physical habits that mandate our bodily attention , such as food ,body image, addiction, self-care, etcetera.  Regardless of your bodily experience, know that embodiment is the connection. Therefore, live within your body:  listen to its messages, relearn how and when to feed it, give it plenty of movement, and just as importantly, rest, and find faith in its processes.

Ignoring your thoughts:  Walk through a day-in-your-mind, and notice the commentary.

Attempting  to prove our worth:  You are enough, and you are worthy.  Worth is not proved.  It is inherent.

Mixing up priorities:   This is easier said than done.  Nonetheless, ask yourself:  What are your priorities in life?  How do you show prioritization to those that you cherish?  How do you prioritize your own needs?

Trusting outside information over your own intuition:   Ignore technology.  Ignore the media.  Ignore what doesn’t resonate.  Instead, let go and connect with the rhythms of your body and mind.

Compromising yourself and loved ones:   Stop people-pleasing.  Advocate and be assertive on behalf of yourself and your loved ones.

Find balance:  For most, balance does not exist in the sense that we pursue it.  Balance is not a fixed state, rather it is a fluid state of adjustment, adaptation, giving and receiving.

Limiting joy:  Make time for the things that feel good and light your soul on fire.  Laugh.  Play.  Embrace all that brings you joy.