“Ubuntu”

While visiting an Xhosa tribe in south-eastern Africa and studying its children, an American anthropologist placed a basket full of local fruits near the bottom of a tree. He explained to the children, as he walked away from the tree, that whichever child was able to reach the basket first would win the entire lot […]

Things Aren’t Adding Up? Start Subtracting

Quite often, we tend to think that peace may be obtained by adding certain things into our lives. However, it has been my experience, that the act of letting go is equally important. The following list originated from the article entitled, “Eight Things You Must Give Up To Find Peace”, and it describes eight essential […]

Ask Yourself This:

We have all heard the saying, “All that we are is a result of what we have thought”, and in my experience, this statement seems to be true. And, on a similar vein, so does the quote, “Change your thoughts, and you change your world.” Whether this is true for everyone or not, I do […]

Stop. Just, stop.

I often come across To-Do Lists that enumerate the things that I must do in, or add to my already very-full life. And while these lists often shine light upon areas of life that are thirsting for attention, I find that incorporating more into my life is not what I need. Rather, what I need […]

Earth to Self

With the New Year approaching, many of us will find ourselves reflecting on the year gone by, and planning for the year ahead, and quite possibly, setting New Years Resolutions.  Which suggests that we have  life-work to do, and this work is undoubtedly some of the most difficult internal work we do as humans. So, […]

Gaining Ground

Let us suffice it to say that life is good, even when it is hard, and some of life’s greatest gifts often come to us as blessings in disguise. So, even when we find ourselves amidst confusion and discomfort, we must find a way to move along in one way or another. Which brings me […]

Human Is As Human Does

  As a therapist, I work in the field of self-improvement. My job, in essence, is to help the individuals I work with increase their satisfaction in life by obtaining goals, working through difficult problems, and attaining personal growth. And through my work, and my own life experiences, I am reminded each and every day […]

Practice, Practice, Practice

“Practice and all is coming.” –K. Pattabhi Jois In the yogic world, we refer to the act of “doing yoga” as a practice. And it is called a practice for good reason. For in practice, we recognize that we will never reach perfection. We may become masterful at what we will do, but because we […]

People Pleasing? No please.

If we are honest with ourselves, most of us must admit that we care, at least to some extent, that we care about what other people think of us. We want to be liked. We want people to think well of us. Likewise, most of us want to do well for and please other people. […]

The Way We Do Anything Is the Way We Do Everything

    While in session with a client last week, I repeated the following quote: “The way we do anything, or one thing, is the way we do everything.” Upon my saying this, both my client and I had to take a moment to reflect on the meaning of this statement.  At first, I silently […]